After talking about friendships in episode 6, the sex blogging community as a whole is on my mind. Cultivating friendships is important but being a part of the community, even in a small way, matters just as much. In this episode: Communities remind us we’re not completely solitary. We might not all be besties but we have a place to share the struggles and good times as a creator. Communities are where you learn best practices, problems (like Twitter shadowbans), and what you don’t know that you don’t know. Online communities are out there – in every social media platform....

Over the weekend I read a book called A Secret Sisterhood: The Literary Friendships of Jane Austen, Charlotte Bronte, George Eliot, and Virginia Woolf. While it was a fascinating look at a forgotten or ignored part of literary history, it also got me thinking about how important friendship is to the smutlancing life. In this episode: This week’s episode is sponsored by Blubrry.com. We need friends as creative people. Friends who are on a similar path and understand what we’re going through. Friends to bounce ideas off of or to get a gut check from. One or two is enough....

In episode 5, I discuss a bad habit that a lot of creative people have – and as a sex blogger, I know I do it. We compare ourselves to others and decide there’s something wrong with us. Sometimes the insecurity of jealousy makes us not like the other person but most often, we find something in ourselves lacking. We tell ourselves we’re not as good as they are and we never will be. The compare and contrast thing is something we all do, and it’s something we should all do less of. In this episode: This week’s episode is...

I promised interviews with companies, brands, and websites that publish sex writing and other creative content, and I meant it. For the first interview, I talked to Andrew and Pixie from Kink Craft in the UK. What began as a professional relationship between writer and company has grown into a genuine friendship between us. Hear what one company has to say about paying writers, the content they look for, and how it incorporates into their business model. If you’re in the UK or attend Eroticon, make sure you get to know them personally. For anyone looking for a new place...

Now that the holidays are over, it’s time for a new episode. This week, let’s talk about shame and vulnerability that occurs in sex and when we create content – whether it’s about sex or not. In this episode: This week’s episode is sponsored by Blubrry, a podcast hosting solution. I recently read Daring Greatly and I Thought It Was Just Me by Brene Brown These books focus on her research in vulnerability and shame Shame is, unfortunately, central to how some people think about sex. Talking about it – writing about it – can be an act of vulnerability...

Episode two is all about showing up and putting in the work. It was recorded during sex blogger list season but the principles apply all year long. If your goal next year is to appear on a sex blogger list or move up a few spots from the year before or if you just want to become a better blogger, you’ve got to show up. In this episode: This week’s episode is sponsored by Blubrry, a podcast hosting solution. What you do with a personal journal/project is different than what you do when trying to make money Requires showing up...

In the very first episode of The Smutlancer podcast, I try to answer one simple question…what the hell is a smutlancer? And also, what you can expect from this podcast. In this episode: What is a smutlancer? What you can expect from this podcast Creating content and getting paid Talking about sex, kink, relationships, gender, sexuality, you name it Written word, podcast, maybe video Getting clients, pitching ideas, making money from your own blog Building relationships Better blogging Books I’ve read Interviews with editors and publications Links from the show: Follow me on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook KaylaLords.com Loving BDSM...