How to Take Small Steps to Achieve Your Big Goals SL022

how to use small steps to achieve long term goals

I never feel like I’m going enough or that I’ll ever reach my own goals, and I know other smutlancers feel the same way. Part rant, part ramble, here are my tips for how to take small steps to keep moving forward to achieve your big goals — especially when it seems like you’ll never…

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You Do What Others Won’t SL021

episode 21 of The Smutlancer podcast discussing what makes you unique

When I found myself recording multiple podcast episodes in the midnight hour between Monday night and Tuesday morning, I started thinking about all the things you and I do to make our dreams a reality. It was time to celebrate it — and I may or may not encourage you to play a silly “drinking…

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What is Your Why?

figure out your purpose, your "why" as a creator and smutlancer

Have you ever asked yourself why? Why am I writing sex toy reviews at midnight? Why am I obsessed over sharing details of my sex life or selling this product or educating the sex-curious masses? Knowing your why as a smutlancer is as important as knowing your what. Because when things get tough — and…

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Finding Success with Goal Setting

How to set a goal to accomplish a dream

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by all the possible things you could do as a smutlancer. You look around and think, “Okay, I want to be [INSERT THING YOU WANT TO BE]” and then you wonder how the hell you’re supposed to make it happen. We’ve already talked about re-thinking success and decided (at least…

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What Does Success Look Like?

redefining success as a smutlancer

You can blame Cara Thereon (whom I adore) for this one. We got into an amazing conversation on Twitter about jealousy, comparison, and success. From that, this blog post was born. Too many of us see what other people are doing and ask ourselves, “Why aren’t I doing that yet? Will I ever have that…

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My Story: Writing About Sex for Money

Kayla Lords Smutlancer Story

“Writing is like sex. First you do it for love, then you do it for your friends, and then you do it for money.” ~Virginia Woolf I know that Virginia Woolf isn’t specifically talking to sex writers in this quote, but it fits. Her words outline my personal journey into the world of writing about sex…

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