When In Doubt, Be Who You Are

always be yourself

I’m writing this the Sunday before I head to Eroticon 2018. My to-do list for client work and blogging is nearly done. A trip I’ve been thinking about since my return flight after Eroticon 2017 is about to become a reality. This time, my husband (that’s still fun to say/type!) John Brownstone will be with…

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Hacking My To-Do List to Get More Done

making my to-do list more productive

It’s the Friday before Eroticon 2018, and I’ve worked (and am still working) hard to get as much done before I leave as possible. Between client work, blogging, and podcasting, it’s more than I anticipated. Although why I told myself 15 hour workdays were a thing I could just keep doing, I don’t know. I’ve…

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5 Tips for Setting Boundaries With Your Clients

post on setting boundaries in your professional life

I’ll be the first to admit I’m not great at setting boundaries, professional or personal. I say yes too often, and I don’t speak up when things get overwhelming. In personal relationships, I hate to disappoint my friends or let them down. In professional relationships, it’s a bit of the same but with the fear…

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On the Care and Feeding of Your Smutlancer

on the care and feeding of a smutlancer

I’m not exactly young anymore (but I’m definitely not old!), and I’ve finally had to admit to myself that I’m not the same person I was in college. That chick could write until 2am, sleep until 6am, go to an 8am class and stay up until 3am studying the next night. (Yeah, I know that…

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An Alternative to Calling Out an Adult Company

an alternative to call-out culture as a smutlancer

I’ve said before that call-out culture (on any social media platform) isn’t my thing. My personality isn’t built for it, and from observation, it doesn’t work most of the time. Typically, several people yell (in all caps), feelings get hurt and tempers flare on both sides, and there is no dialogue. People dig their heels…

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Why I Use an Editor

a post about using an editor written by Pixie Heart

Please welcome Pixie Heart to the Smutlancer blog today as our contributing writer! I know her as a kinkster, friend, and now fellow sex-blogger. We can also use help in our writing lives and we all have ways we can improve. Today, Pixie discusses the importance of a good editor and friend. I have struggled…

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Why the Twitter Shadowban Matters…and Why It Doesn’t

a blog post about the Twitter shadowban

The social media and content entities of the world work hard these days to lock out adult content. Either due to investor concerns about all that dirty, dirty sex littering their cash cow. Or it’s in an unconvincing attempt to “Think of the children!” WordPress, Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, Patreon, and even the place many of…

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Breaking Up With a Client Doesn’t Have to Be Heartbreaking

post on breaking up with aka firing a client

I know, I know…some of you are thinking, “Breaking up?! I’m trying to get a client — not get rid of them!” If you’re just starting out in this smutlancing thing, it probably seems impossible that a day will come when you’ll break up with (aka fire) a client. A few years ago, I thought…

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5 Reasons You’re Not Working On Your Smutlancing Dreams

why the work isn't being done

I’m guilty of a very bad habit as a creator. If the stars don’t align just perfectly to give me the perfect parameters that I need to create something – write a blog post, record a podcast, or work on future goals (like course creation and ebooks) – I won’t do it. So what does…

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Pitching and Rejection: What You Need to Know

blog post about accepting rejection as a writer and smutlancer

The first rule of creating content – smutty fiction, personal sex blogging essays, or topical and newsy ideas – is the same for everyone. You will be rejected. At some point, at some time, someone (or many some ones) won’t like your ideas, thoughts, or musings. It’s the nature of the creative life. But there’s…

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