Erotic Authors / Freelancers / Sex Bloggers/Sex Toy Reviewers
by Girl on the Net · Published February 12, 2021
Ever look around at other smutlancers and wonder how you think you’ll ever be as good as them? You’re not alone. It’s not that you suck (you definitely don’t). It’s that imposter syndrome is trying to convince you that you’re no good. So let’s talk about that.
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Spoiler alert: Both Molly and I have some level of imposter syndrome, and even though we both know better, it still gets to us more often than we’d like. We’re talking about our experiences with it, our tips for dealing with it, and most importantly, forgiving yourself when you realize you let it get to you.
Even after all these years as a freelancer and a sex blogger, imposter syndrome kicks my butt (though not as much as it once did). No method is perfect, and I’m not “cured” but if it can help someone else, here’s what I do when self-doubt kicks in.
Blogging / Sex Bloggers/Sex Toy Reviewers
by Kayla Lords · Published September 17, 2018 · Last modified July 23, 2020
Thanks to Quinn Rhodes for suggesting this topic. Her actual request was for a podcast episode on the things I wish I’d known or the things newbie sex bloggers need to know, and I think that’ll happen in the future. For now, let’s talk about the topic here. It’s big enough to come back to later. Is this everything single thing a sex blogger needs to know? Definitely not. Partly because that list could go on forever, and partly because we all come to this with our own experiences. You may have known some of these things when you began....
A big thanks to Amy of Coffee and Kink for inspiring this particular post. We had a good Twitter conversation (as we often do) that got me thinking. Knowing if you’re on the right track with your smutlancing goals or if you’re just spinning your wheels is a question we all have to face at some point. And we have to reassess periodically because it’s easy to veer off course or do something that’s not actually working. I imagine there are a million ways to figure out if you’re on track towards your goals, but these are the methods I...
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In this week’s episode, I talk about imposter syndrome and anxiety and about how our brains can make us believe things that aren’t true for a lot of other reasons. Mental illness is very real. I don’t offer solutions to every situation, only what’s worked for me in the past. Most importantly, I want to remind you and myself that we’re not alone and that others go through the worry, angst, and fear that our minds can put us through. In this episode: This week’s episode is brought to you by QuickBooks Self Employed. Imposter syndrome is not the same...
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Once you begin to make money as a smutlancer, you’ll start to get offers of jobs that you’re not sure you’re qualified to do. Sometimes you won’t be, but most of the time, your concern will be fear or imposter syndrome. This week let’s talk about why you ought to say yes even when you’re scared you won’t be able to do the job. In this episode: Did the show sound weird in episode 19? Yeah, we had a mic problem that didn’t get discovered until Friday morning. The more you put yourself out in the world as being for...
Erotic Authors / Freelancers / Sex Bloggers/Sex Toy Reviewers / Smutlancer Life
by Kayla Lords · Published August 28, 2017 · Last modified July 23, 2020
Have you ever asked yourself, “Who am I kidding? I’m not a…” Fill in the blank: real writer, good writer, good enough to get paid, don’t know what I’m talking about. What about this one? “One day they’re all going to figure out I’m a fraud.” Assuming you’re not actually committing fraud, let me guess. You received praise. Someone was kind to you. Your boss showed appreciation. You impressed someone. You, my friend, are likely suffering from Imposter Syndrome. Some call it insecurity or anxiety, but it’s a pervasive belief that you’re not smart enough, good enough, talented enough, or...
