9 Things New Sex Bloggers Need to Know

Kayla Lords

Kayla Lords is a freelance sex writer, podcaster, blogger, all-around sex content creating human, and she really likes creating content. As a writer, she focuses on sex and kink primarily on BDSM and power exchange. She works with private clients to write their content and manage their social media, while also co-hosting two podcasts, running a YouTube channel, and managing multiple blogs. Let's just say, she stays busy and wants to keep it that way. Kayla is an international speaker and an award-winning sex blogger. She believes we are stronger together as a community than we are isolated and apart. We all deserve to get paid for the work we do, but until we understand our cumulative power, we'll all wonder if we're "the only one" doing this smutlancing thing.

14 Responses

  1. Andy says:

    If I can add – connect with sex blog directories and fellow bloggers for quality backlinks. SexBlogTopList.com loves to help new bloggers grow – and it’s free!

  2. There are even some tips here for bloggers that have been doing it for some time, such as SEO and colors of/on the blog.

    Rebel xox

    • Kayla Lords says:

      I’m learning more about SEO, so I’ll be expanding on that soon. 🙂

      • There are many factors when it cones to SEO and how “the mighty google” sees and ranks websites. Although you speak only about the on-site SEO part (editorial guidelines, plug-ins, 3rd party apps like webmasters/tools and analytics, code optimization and so on), don’t overlook the off-site SEO which is very very important as well.

        P.S. If you need any help in compiling a list of on/off site SEO factors don’t hesitate to contact me.


        • Kayla Lords says:

          While I recognize that “off-site” SEO can be helpful, it’s also so open to manipulation and bad practices (like buying dofollow links) that it’s not something I necessarily focus on. Creating content so good that other people *want* to share it, participating in blogging memes and community activities, and the other opportunities for others to link to you (while also linking to other sex bloggers) is something I’ve talked about — but not necessarily in terms of SEO. It’s too easy to focus on the idea that “I’ve got to be linked to by others” as an SEO trick instead of “I’ve got to create good enough content that others want to link to” that (in turn) helps your SEO. So, for right now I’ll probably focus on the on-site SEO more than off-site. I’m not opposed to off-site — my sites have benefited from very natural linking over the years — but much of the conversation I read about it is very mercenary.

  3. Petra Pan says:

    This is a great article for new and experienced bloggers! Also it serves as a good reminder of the basics of blogging. Thanks for writing it 😃

    PP x

  4. I think the need to self host can be overstated. I’ll probably curse myself by saying this, but the WP police have never troubled me so far.

    • Kayla Lords says:

      I would say you’re one of the lucky ones. I self-hosted after watching a dozen sites get purged from WP for no obvious reason — and certainly with no notice or justification given. For me, the risk of it happening at any time is simply more than I’m willing to accept (but I’m notoriously risk-averse, as well).

      And I think self-hosting depends on your goals, as well. If you’re blogging for fun or in a personal journal kind of way, there’s probably not a need.

  5. Ruby Wild says:

    As as newbie sex blogger, this is super helpful advice! Thank you so much for sharing x

  6. Jessica says:

    Hey Kayla. I’ve read a few of these posts about tips for sex bloggers, as we’re working on a new website in this area. I love your points and it means a lot coming from someone with such experience, especially the point about taking your time. I see that a lot, as time and consistency seem to be big factors in succeeding with a website build. Thanks!

  7. Alice Bloom says:

    Kayla, You make A LOT of good points here. For me getting started it was harder for me to get over the fact that I was openly writing about a “taboo” topic like sex toys. You’re completely right when you talk about the more you blog the better it gets. I’ve found that the more I just dive in and get the work done, the less anxious I am about opinions and things. Thank you!

    • Kayla Lords says:

      You’re so welcome! We can’t go around or over something, only through, and that includes our worries and fears about blogging. So glad things are getting easy for you!

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