The Smutlancers

Author: Kayla Lords

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Smutlancer Life

What To Do Instead of Waiting for Inspiration to Strike

Many creative people I know spend a lot of time worrying that they’re not feeling inspired. They fret that maybe their muse has left them, wonder if they’re experiencing writer’s block, or start to think maybe they’re not cut out for this creative thing. It’s a common thing that affects most of us at some point or another, and it absolutely sucks. If you’re not interested in building a business, making money, or reaching specific creative and financial goals (publishing a book, winning an award, etc), you can wait for inspiration. To everyone else… You don’t have time for inspiration...

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Episodes

When Your Mind Lies to You SL026

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In this week’s episode, I talk about imposter syndrome and anxiety and about how our brains can make us believe things that aren’t true for a lot of other reasons. Mental illness is very real. I don’t offer solutions to every situation, only what’s worked for me in the past. Most importantly, I want to remind you and myself that we’re not alone and that others go through the worry, angst, and fear that our minds can put us through. In this episode: This week’s episode is brought to you by QuickBooks Self Employed. Imposter syndrome is not the same...

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Erotic Authors / Freelancers / Sex Bloggers/Sex Toy Reviewers / Smutlancer Life

How Do I Know if I’m Good Enough to Get Paid?

I remember asking myself this question before I became a vanilla freelancer and then before I pitched my first sex writing article. Am I good enough to get paid? How do I know? The short answer is…you don’t. But here are a few ideas to help you decide when it’s time to pitch your idea, make your content, or sell your thing anyway. You Wish You Wrote/Did/Made It Ever seen someone do something and thought, “I could have done that!” You don’t hate them for it (hopefully) but you’re a little mad at yourself because you could have done it...

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Knowing When to Quit SL025

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I’m one of those cheerful, optimistic, and determined people that doesn’t talk much about quitting. Mostly because I’ll (usually) do everything in my power to avoid it. But sometimes, the best choice you can make for yourself, your goals, and your sanity is to quit what isn’t working. So let’s talk about that on the podcast this week. In this episode: This week’s episode is brought to you by QuickBooks Self Employed. Quitting doesn’t have to mean that you’re a loser or you failed. Not all failures are bad. It means you tried something. There’s a difference between giving up...

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Blogging / Erotic Authors / Freelancers / Sex Bloggers/Sex Toy Reviewers

Do You Need an Email Newsletter?

Thinking of starting an email newsletter? Wondering if it’s really necessary? Have one and don’t know if it’s worth the time? The answer to the email question is…it depends. If you find yourself checking your personal email on your phone multiple times a day and your work email even more often, you already know how important email is in our lives. But as a sex blogger or an adult brand, do you need to start an email list or send out newsletters? Eh…sometimes? I recently shut down one email newsletter while keeping two more alive and well, so I’m well...

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Blogging / Erotic Authors / Sex Bloggers/Sex Toy Reviewers

5 Types of Content to Create for Your Sex Blog or Adult Website

When you think website or blog content, you likely think of text first. Yes, overwhelmingly, this is true. But not all written content is the same, and not all your content has to be written at all. If you have a sex blog, you likely already share personal experiences, erotic fiction, or thoughts on sex or relationships with your audience. E-commerce sites and service sites struggle more with content but tend towards two options: educational content or erotica. But it’s easy to get bored or want to try something new. Sometimes it feels like the well has run dry, and...

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Information and Essays / Opportunities / Paid Opportunities

The Smutlancer

That’s right, The Smutlancer (this site that you’re on right now!) is looking for contributors. I put the information here in case you didn’t see it in the top menu of the site. Payment: Yes. $25 per article Submission Information: I want your lessons learned, tips, tricks, and other perspectives on working towards your smutlancing goals or living them. If you haven’t “made it” (whatever that means to you), your experiences are still valuable. We all have something to learn from each other! Pitch Information: Check out the guidelines and email your pitch. I promise to get back with a...

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Loving BDSM

Loving BDSM is a podcast, a website, and a community where John Brownstone and I talking about Loving BDSM in a loving relationship. We seek to educate and connect with new and experienced kinksters alike. URL: lovingbdsm.kaylalords.com Payment: Yes. $25 per article Submission Information: The topics we cover here on Loving BDSM – podcast, video, and text – are just a sliver of the full BDSM experience. We discuss what we know and believe to be true, what we’ve experienced, and even our growing understanding of a topic. But there are some topics we’re just not qualified to talk about...

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Slow Progress Isn’t a Sign of Failure SL024

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I admit to going on a tangent in this one, but the overall message is pretty clear (hopefully): Slow progress isn’t a sign of failure. No shame if you’re moving at the speed of a sloth, y’all. In this episode: This week’s episode is brought to you by QuickBooks Self Employed. The overnight success probably worked for 10 years in obscurity before getting “found.” Some people write thousands of words a day and some write dozens. Believing you’re not doing enough can stop you in your tracks and make you think, “Why bother?’. Mentally berating yourself for not writing or...

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Erotica / Opportunities / Paid Opportunities

Doxy

“Very few people buy a Doxy as an actual back massager, though they are very good for that, they buy them as a sex toy for amazing orgasms either by themselves or with a partner. Very few people read erotica just for the plot and character development, though they’re important to good writing, they read erotica to get themselves excited and turned on.“ URL: www.doxymassager.com Payment: Yes. £100 per piece Submission Information: “Every month we’ll publish a new piece of erotica for you to enjoy on the Doxy blog. Submissions are open to new and experienced writers.” Pitch Information: Submit your...