Slow Progress Isn’t a Sign of Failure SL024

I admit to going on a tangent in this one, but the overall message is pretty clear (hopefully): Slow progress isn’t a sign of failure. No shame if you’re moving at the speed of a sloth, y’all.

In this episode:

  • This week’s episode is brought to you by QuickBooks Self Employed.
  • The overnight success probably worked for 10 years in obscurity before getting “found.”
  • Some people write thousands of words a day and some write dozens.
  • Believing you’re not doing enough can stop you in your tracks and make you think, “Why bother?’.
  • Mentally berating yourself for not writing or creating all the time often leads to feelings of guilt, then stress, and then procrastination.
  • Overcoming those feelings takes time and a lot of mental effort:
    • Forgive yourself for any perceived failings
    • Recognize that you don’t have to create the way others create
    • Commit to what you know you can do — 30 minutes a day, every other day, or once a week
    • Small victories can give you the momentum you need to do more.

Links from the show:

Mischa Eliot

The Compare and Contrast Thing We All Do (episode #5)

Mel Robbins on YouTube

QuickBooks Self Employed (affiliate link — get 50 percent off the price for a year)

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Loving BDSM

Masturbation Monday

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Kayla Lords

Kayla Lords is a freelance sex writer, podcaster, blogger, all-around sex content creating human, and she really likes creating content. As a writer, she focuses on sex and kink primarily on BDSM and power exchange. She works with private clients to write their content and manage their social media, while also co-hosting two podcasts, running a YouTube channel, and managing multiple blogs. Let's just say, she stays busy and wants to keep it that way. Kayla is an international speaker and an award-winning sex blogger. She believes we are stronger together as a community than we are isolated and apart. We all deserve to get paid for the work we do, but until we understand our cumulative power, we'll all wonder if we're "the only one" doing this smutlancing thing.

2 Responses

  1. Dougie says:

    wow, that was the best 30 mins I spent in a long time so thank you for that.

    I mainly like how you spoke from experience. When talking about procrastination that you used real-life examples such as not having your phone on your desk. Also how procrastination was stress related which I can see.

    I have certainly learnt something, and I am completely the same. As I am new writing and coming up with titles for new posts is one thing but then writing them is a whole different level. Where I also find other things to do to stop myself from doing it.

    So I have now set time aside purposely to do all those things and then sit down and write (As you said that is what a first draft is for!) and then I can cross it off my life. Just a small win.

    Thank you again. Listening to your podcast and I will be listening to more I don’t think it will take you much longer to be “Discovered.”

    • Kayla Lords says:

      Thank you so much! I’m glad you enjoyed it and that you found it relatable. Those small wins add up and help create other small wins — I see that in my own work life now, too.

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