Ignoring Your Critics and Getting Better at What You Do SL008

This week I went on a rant (it’s kind of my thing) about ignoring your critics – even your own inner critic – and doing your thing. We all start somewhere and we all get better with time. It’s easy for someone to sit on the outside and say you did it wrong, but much harder to be out there getting it done.

In this episode:

  • Two separate Twitter convos inspired this week’s episode – one on whether you can like someone who sucks at their art and the other about non-helpful criticism.
  • There’s a difference between the critic and the person doing something. The critic has the easy job.
  • You will never be as good as you want to be. That’s okay. The point is to keep doing it anyway and you will improve.
  • Some improvement comes with practice.
  • Much of it comes with learning new ideas, exposing yourself to new things, and actively trying to get better.
  • Another tweet that I saw and loved addressed not being amazed that some creators and professionals know how to do things – we Googled it, and you can too.
  • But you never improve if you don’t hit publish or make your thing.

Links from the show:

Smut Marathon

The Man in the Arena quote

The Compare and Contrast Thing We All Do (episode 5)

Don’t Complain, Create Something Instead

Blubrry.com – use code KaylaLords to get one month free! (affiliate offer)

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Kayla Lords is a freelance sex writer, podcaster, blogger, all-around sex content creating human, and she really likes creating content. As a writer, she focuses on sex and kink primarily on BDSM and power exchange. She works with private clients to write their content and manage their social media, while also co-hosting two podcasts, running a YouTube channel, and managing multiple blogs. Let's just say, she stays busy and wants to keep it that way. Kayla is an international speaker and an award-winning sex blogger. She believes we are stronger together as a community than we are isolated and apart. We all deserve to get paid for the work we do, but until we understand our cumulative power, we'll all wonder if we're "the only one" doing this smutlancing thing.

2 Responses

  1. First time I have listened to one of your podcasts (yes I know, shame on me) and I loved it. Not because you mentioned the Smut Marathon (thanks for that) but because of your bubbly voice and what you have said. Yes, if we don’t start on something we love and keep on coming back, we will never get better!

    Rebel xox

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