Handling Criticism From Your Audience

Kayla Lords

I am an erotic author, sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, an opinionated marketer, and a speaker with a focus on BDSM and D/s. Here at The Smutlancer, I help people who want to create content or products about sex get paid to do it. I'm sharing what I've learned as a freelancer and a sex blogger to build a career. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences and helping kinksters have healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone.

4 Responses

  1. Mrs Fever says:

    Related, tangential:

    Delivering criticism (constructive feedback) is a tricky thing for me. Like, I recently had the experience of finding an image on a blog where the image creator was not credited or linked. Since I know the image creator, I reached out both to them as well as to the person who had pirated (not the right term exactly, as I don’t think there was any ill intent, but you know what I mean) the image. To the image creator, I said, basically, “Hey — just an FYI.” To the poster, I said “Hey, I know those people in your image. Maybe you should get in touch with them and give credit where credit is due.” (I was more tactful than that, but that was the gist.)

    It was criticism, for sure. And it was uncomfortable to give. (She was defensive and thought her blanket “images borrowed from the web” disclaimer was enough. At first. So I’m sure it was uncomfortable to receive as well.)

    Critical feedback – of the unsolicited variety – is a tricky thing. But sometimes, if it feels like the right thing to do, you just gotta speak up.

    (Of course, when someone speaks up in the form of criticism in a posted comment and you don’t like it, there’s always the delete button. 😉 )

    • Kayla Lords says:

      I agree with you completely…and it is SUCH a tricky thing. I think that last bit is the thing most people forget about the most (both the people who give and receive criticism/feedback/critique). There is NO obligation to accept it and the delete button exists for a reason.

  2. Mrs Fever says:

    I left you a comment earlier but I think the internet ate it. Just FYI. (Maybe it’s in your spam file?)

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