The Fear of Stopping

This week’s episode discusses goal setting from a different angle — the fear we sometimes feel when we decide to stop doing something. Change can be scary, and not just new changes we’ve never done before. Stopping or ending a thing we’ve done for a long time can make us fearful or unsettled, too.

These are my thoughts.

In this episode:

  • Part of goal setting needs to be deciding what you won’t do in the future.
  • We can have a similar response to stopping as we do to starting — anxiety, worries, fears.
  • Very little is permanent, and you can always come back to something again.
  • Ask yourself a few questions about the thing you want to stop.
  • Some “stops” will be abrupt and immediate, others will be gradual.
  • Give yourself time to know if it’s something you should continue — quarterly or semi-annual check-ins work.

Links from the episode:

Setting Goals You Can Achieve (podcast)

The Smutlancers Community on Patreon

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Molly’s Daily Kiss

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Kayla Lords

Kayla Lords is a freelance sex writer, podcaster, blogger, all-around sex content creating human, and she really likes creating content. As a writer, she focuses on sex and kink primarily on BDSM and power exchange. She works with private clients to write their content and manage their social media, while also co-hosting two podcasts, running a YouTube channel, and managing multiple blogs. Let's just say, she stays busy and wants to keep it that way. Kayla is an international speaker and an award-winning sex blogger. She believes we are stronger together as a community than we are isolated and apart. We all deserve to get paid for the work we do, but until we understand our cumulative power, we'll all wonder if we're "the only one" doing this smutlancing thing.

2 Responses

  1. I am so glad I finally listened to this tonight. Very timely for me. Thanks. I need you to be my therapist, Kayla. I feel way calmer and more confident after listening to the podcast! Happy New Year xx

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