5 Reasons You’re Not Working On Your Smutlancing Dreams

Kayla Lords

I am an erotic author, sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, an opinionated marketer, and a speaker with a focus on BDSM and D/s. Here at The Smutlancer, I help people who want to create content or products about sex get paid to do it. I'm sharing what I've learned as a freelancer and a sex blogger to build a career. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences and helping kinksters have healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone.

6 Responses

  1. I was just talking about defining success with my partner and what it means for me as a blogger who is trying to broaden and grow their horizons. I know that for me a failure state can include any writing or situation that I’m not perfect with, like being afraid to ask a question perhaps. As for my actual success states, I’ve realized that I don’t know what those benchmarks are. Thanks for making me think about it a little harder!

    • Kayla Lords says:

      You are so welcome! And the benchmarks will change…sometimes after you reach the first one and sometimes when you’re on your way towards it. It’s a little bit of a moving target, but if you’re moving in the direction you want to go in, that’s okay. 🙂

  2. Oh Kayla I see a bit of myself in all of your reasons =) I think I also often fall into the trap of thinking that what other people want me to do is more important than what I want to do – so I end up saying ‘OK then’ to a bunch of requests that are just things people want, and which won’t really further my career or blog or anything, because I hate saying ‘no’, then I run out of time to do the things that I really want to do or that are more strategically helpful in things like building blog traffic (or making sure I’ve got the £ to pay my bills at the end of the month). This is a great piece, thank you for it. It’s a helpful reminder of what matters and what doesn’t <3

    • Kayla Lords says:

      You’ve touched on one that I’ve only recently noticed in myself – saying yes to things that don’t do anything for me at all. Not to say that I don’t want to help – I do. But like you, I say yes so often that my priorities are set aside.

      I’m glad you enjoyed the piece and that I’m not the only one who feels these things. 🙂

  3. Aurora Glory says:

    Your last point so perfectly describes how I’m feeling right now. I’ve finally got what I wanted and am getting requests for work… and I’m just freaking out completely. I know I need to just face my fears, but I’m scared. The higher I climb the further I can fall. I’m so glad I read this as it’s made me realise that all the doubts I’m having are just fear. Thank you for all you do on the Smutlancer, I think your blog and podcast really are fantastic and have been so incredibly helpful.
    Aurora x

    • Kayla Lords says:

      ((HUGS)) You can do this, I promise you can. I get scared too, before every new client that I take on. But, believe it or not, the writing is the writing. You already do it on your blog, and they wouldn’t have wanted you to do it for them if you weren’t any good. And if you ever need help, feel free to reach out — Twitter or email. I’m happy to help if I can.

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