Advice from an Advice-Giver on Giving Advice

Not everyone who creates content wants to give advice, and frankly not everyone even should. But if you’re interested in offering your perspective on the world in a way that might help others, I have some, well, advice. Ultimately, you have to find what works for you. As someone who used to think there was nothing I could say to help others, I’ve found a way that builds connections and an audience while letting me sleep at night. Take as little or as much as you want from this episode. Ultimately, we all have to find the path that works for us.

In this episode:

  • Share your personal perspective – and understand its your perspective
  • Research and reach out on what you don’t know, always keep learning
  • Admit your way isn’t the only way
  • Do a gut check – if confronted about your advice, do you believe in what you’ve said strongly enough to defend it? Can you defend it?
  • Be willing to hear other perspectives
  • Be willing to change your mind
  • Don’t be afraid of the “simple” or “basic” answer – which may be new information to the person you’re talking to.

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Kayla Lords

Kayla Lords is a freelance sex writer, podcaster, blogger, all-around sex content creating human, and she really likes creating content. As a writer, she focuses on sex and kink primarily on BDSM and power exchange. She works with private clients to write their content and manage their social media, while also co-hosting two podcasts, running a YouTube channel, and managing multiple blogs. Let's just say, she stays busy and wants to keep it that way. Kayla is an international speaker and an award-winning sex blogger. She believes we are stronger together as a community than we are isolated and apart. We all deserve to get paid for the work we do, but until we understand our cumulative power, we'll all wonder if we're "the only one" doing this smutlancing thing.

1 Response

  1. Jennifer says:

    I loved your podcast! I am a certified Intimacy Coach and seriously struggle with the “I hold all the knowledge” issues that seem to reside in this industry. I loved your basic answer. The more complicated the answer the less help you give most times. I have also trained as a sex coach so I suppose I have a great deal of tech knowledge but that doesn’t mean I have personal knowledge about everything. I refer out a lot! I have found that most people get the most help knowing they aren’t alone. I have an advice segment I do on a website focusing on ED which I specialize in. I often shit myself hoping I have said the right thing! I just wanted to say thanks for keeping it real! Because you mirrored my feelings and it is nice to know I am not alone.

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