What is Imposter Syndrome?

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Have you ever asked yourself, “Who am I kidding? I’m not a…” Fill in the blank: real writer, good writer, good enough to get paid, don’t know what I’m talking about. What about this one? “One day they’re all going to figure out I’m a fraud.” Assuming you’re not actually committing fraud, let me guess.…

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How to Build Relationships with Adult Companies

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So you want to make money writing about sex, through your blog, or by selling a ton of erotic fiction, right?  Welcome to the smut club! Most, if not all of us, start writing because we have thoughts we want to express, views to share, or words floating around in our brains we need to…

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How to Build Relationships with Your Readers

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Relationships matter in everything we do. Without good working relationships, day jobs are miserable. A bad relationship – romantic, parental, friend – wreaks havoc on our confidence and mental health. The rapport you build with people can open up new opportunities in life, make connections with strangers, and move your goals forward. Writing about sex…

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Why Relationships Matter as a Sex Blogger and Writer

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The online world is a strange place. You can be whoever you want to be. Use a sexy avatar that looks nothing like you. Create a fake name. Say you’re from anywhere in the world. Anonymity is (mostly) yours if you want it. Even as sex bloggers and writers, we can be whoever we want…

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Why You Really Need a Blog, Even If It’s Not a Sex Blog

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To blog or not to blog, that is the question for so many writers. Of course, the inverse of that for sex bloggers is “to pitch or not to pitch.” When you’ve already got a sex blog, you wonder if you’re “qualified” to pitch ideas to websites or charge for your writing. When you write…

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Writing for Free vs. Getting Paid for Your Work

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In the world of creativity, many writers – of any and all genres – have to fight tooth and nail to squeeze money out of companies who don’t “budget for content.” It’s frustrating and, most of the time, it devalues the very hard and very real work that writers do. When it comes to sex…

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Writing About Sex Isn’t Easy Money, No Matter What Anyone Says

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Back in 2015, when I decided that maybe writing about sex was a legitimate career choice (spoiler alert: it totally is), I did the only thing I could think of. I Googled “how to make money writing about sex.” Big mistake. My results were filled with articles of “legitimate” writers who decided they’d try this…

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Do You Need a Pen Name as a Sex Writer?

Do You Need a Pen Name if You Write About Sex?

The question of whether you should select a pen name (or pseudonym) tends to be a topic left most often to erotic authors. Of course, they aren’t the only ones who need to consider it. When I started my blog, I chose one because I wanted to write about my sexuality and experiences freely. The…

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Organizing All Your Writing Ideas

Keeping Your Writing Ideas Organized

It doesn’t matter what kind of writing you do – personal blog posts, freelancing, or fiction – when the ideas start flowing, life is good. Until, of course, those ideas flow like water through your hands. I can’t be the only writer who’s ever thought she had a brilliant idea only to forget it the…

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How to Pitch Your Idea to a Website

Submitting Pitches to Websites

If you’ve never written for a website other than your own, it’s easy to wonder how in the hell all those names show up on websites you like to read. Do they have a massive staff of writers, all working 40 hours a week, writing about sexy, kinky things? Uh, no. In reality, writers just…

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