How to Be Trans Inclusive: A Conversation with Quinn Rhodes

This week’s episode is a very special one, with Molly and I talking to Quinn Rhodes (ze/hir) about how smutlancers and content creators can be more inclusive of trans and non-binary people. This is an especially important conversation because of recent transphobic comments and behavior both within the sex blogging community and in the wider world (we’re looking at you, JK Rowling).

If you are a cisgender person and wonder what you can do to be more inclusive, give this episode a listen. Quinn offers easy ideas and real-talk about what to do (and not do) when you misgender someone.

In this episode:

  • Do not assume gender identity
  • Put your pronouns everywhere
  • Use they/them when you don’t know but once you know, use someone’s pronouns
  • When writing pronouns, it’s less acceptable to get it wrong than when speaking
  • Yes relearning is difficult but it’s not as difficult as living the experience
  • It’s not enough to say you’re inclusive, your actions have to back that up.
  • Retweet and amplify trans voices
  • Blogging about gender and bodies can be complicated but it’s possible to be more inclusive

Links from the episode:

Trans Trauma (blog post by Quinn Rhodes)

Transphobia in Sex Blogging (blog post by Quenby)

Discrimination Problem in Smut Marathon (blog post by Mx Nillin)
Note: Smut Marathon has now been canceled for 2020 by the organizer

Open Letter to A Mental Switch (blog post by Mx Nillin)
Note: The day before this episode was recorded, the backlash against this blog post lead to trans and non-binary sex bloggers being called fascists and more. 

How to Handle the Mistakes You WILL Make as a Smutlancer (blog post)

Follow Quinn Rhodes (ze/hir): WebsiteTwitterInstagram

Support Quinn on PatreonFollow @BeNiceToTrans on Twitter (And learn how to be a better ally)

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Kayla Lords

I am an erotic author, sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, an opinionated marketer, and a speaker with a focus on BDSM and D/s. Here at The Smutlancer, I help people who want to create content or products about sex get paid to do it. I'm sharing what I've learned as a freelancer and a sex blogger to build a career. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences and helping kinksters have healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone.

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