How to Be Trans Inclusive: A Conversation with Quinn Rhodes

This week’s episode is a very special one, with Molly and I talking to Quinn Rhodes (ze/hir) about how smutlancers and content creators can be more inclusive of trans and non-binary people. This is an especially important conversation because of recent transphobic comments and behavior both within the sex blogging community and in the wider world (we’re looking at you, JK Rowling).

If you are a cisgender person and wonder what you can do to be more inclusive, give this episode a listen. Quinn offers easy ideas and real-talk about what to do (and not do) when you misgender someone.

In this episode:

  • Do not assume gender identity
  • Put your pronouns everywhere
  • Use they/them when you don’t know but once you know, use someone’s pronouns
  • When writing pronouns, it’s less acceptable to get it wrong than when speaking
  • Yes relearning is difficult but it’s not as difficult as living the experience
  • It’s not enough to say you’re inclusive, your actions have to back that up.
  • Retweet and amplify trans voices
  • Blogging about gender and bodies can be complicated but it’s possible to be more inclusive

Links from the episode:

Trans Trauma (blog post by Quinn Rhodes)

Transphobia in Sex Blogging (blog post by Quenby)

Discrimination Problem in Smut Marathon (blog post by Mx Nillin)
Note: Smut Marathon has now been canceled for 2020 by the organizer

Open Letter to A Mental Switch (blog post by Mx Nillin)
Note: The day before this episode was recorded, the backlash against this blog post lead to trans and non-binary sex bloggers being called fascists and more. 

How to Handle the Mistakes You WILL Make as a Smutlancer (blog post)

Follow Quinn Rhodes (ze/hir): WebsiteTwitterInstagram

Support Quinn on PatreonFollow @BeNiceToTrans on Twitter (And learn how to be a better ally)

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Kayla Lords

Kayla Lords is a freelance sex writer, podcaster, blogger, all-around sex content creating human, and she really likes creating content. As a writer, she focuses on sex and kink primarily on BDSM and power exchange. She works with private clients to write their content and manage their social media, while also co-hosting two podcasts, running a YouTube channel, and managing multiple blogs. Let's just say, she stays busy and wants to keep it that way. Kayla is an international speaker and an award-winning sex blogger. She believes we are stronger together as a community than we are isolated and apart. We all deserve to get paid for the work we do, but until we understand our cumulative power, we'll all wonder if we're "the only one" doing this smutlancing thing.

2 Responses

  1. Cottonfloss says:

    A friend just linked me to this – wow, such a necessary conversation! As a trans person I appreciate this a lot, but is it bad that I found it deeply ironic/kind of hilarious that the hosts are trying as hard as possible NOT to use hir correct pronouns? I’m guessing this is an issue around people’s discomfort with spoken neopronouns, but still.

    • Kayla Lords says:

      Your assessment is right — we hadn’t grown comfortable actually saying hir pronouns at that point and we didn’t practice enough before recording the episode. Since then, we’ve spent more time saying hir pronouns out loud, and I hope we’ve gotten better at it.

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