6 Ways to Stop Worrying About Being Wrong and Publish Your Content Anyway

Kayla Lords

I am an erotic author, sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, an opinionated marketer, and a speaker with a focus on BDSM and D/s. Here at The Smutlancer, I help people who want to create content or products about sex get paid to do it. I'm sharing what I've learned as a freelancer and a sex blogger to build a career. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences and helping kinksters have healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone.

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  1. Mischa Eliot says:

    One of my most difficult things is hitting that publish button sometimes. Yesterday I cleared out my OneDrive of all of my writing. Yep, ALL of it. It’s safely backed up on an expansion drive.

    I put two stories back on today (while writing this comment) that I want to focus on. I did this because I feel like I’m not focused at all. I have all of these ideas and desires. I spend time opening one unfinished story/blog post (or previously finished story that was removed from Radish that I’d like to rework) after another trying to figure out what to do with it.

    I put so much pressure on myself to get things done, that I am not getting anything done (other than finally finishing all of old X-Files and watching the new X-Files). Some days I don’t even turn on the tv when I get home from work and I’ll do the same thing. Flipping from one story to the next, to the internet, to a book on writing or a fiction book I’m reading. It’s kind of like being stuck in a loop or the Supernatural episode Changing Channels. (And it really sucks ass, especially because it’s not funny like that episode.)

    I had all day yesterday to work on writing and the only things I did were to backup two websites, clean up my hard drive, and empty my OneDrive. I stared at a mostly blank work document that I had open. I talked to people. I gave in and turned on X-Files.

    Any tips on getting out of my own way? Love you and all you do. XoXo

    • Kayla Lords says:

      I think it’s the pressure you’re feeling that’s slowing you down. And at some point, as hard as it feels, you have to pick something and just start. Eenie-meenie-miney-moe it if you have to, but commit to a thing. Sometimes I can sense what’s most important to me and sometimes I go with what might get done the fastest — it all depends on how I’m feeling at that moment. But even if my feeling changes, I stick with the thing I’ve committed to until it’s done. It’s all about retraining yourself out of bad habits. Very little of how we behave is about personality. It’s mostly about habits. And if we can find the right motivation to change our habits, it’s easier than when we berate ourselves about what we “should” do or what we’re supposed to do.

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