Spreading Smutty Love for #SOSS Volume 3

It’s time for another week of spreading smutty love as it relates to the sex blogging and content creation life. Because I like this round-up (as opposed to what I do on KaylaLords.com or LovingBDSM.net) to focus on topics that matter to us as writers, finding posts is more of a challenge. Thankfully, I love a challenge.

This week’s pieces for Share Our Shit Saturday come from three of the bloggers I respect most in the sex blogging community. And if you’re not already following them, what are you waiting for??

Like XMas Eve for Sex Bloggers by Molly Moore

Today (the day that this post goes live) the Top 100 Sex Blogs 2017 will go live and many of us will see how we rank among each other. Molly Moore took over the list a couple of years ago and has made it her own. This particular post (Like XMas Eve for Sex Bloggers) touches on a few points we should all remember:

  • These lists are subjective even when objectivity is the goal.
  • Molly has been really transparent about her process.
  • Every list has to have some kind of criteria, whether you like or meet that criteria or not.
  • And if you don’t like the rules, make your own damn list. (Good advice for any content you see that you don’t like.)

Oh, and yes, when I read her post reminding us that the list would be released soon, it did feel a little like Christmas Eve to me.

Going Dutch by Marie Rebelle

Marie Rebelle, like Molly Moore, makes me look like I’m standing still sometimes. But she’s also an inspiration to me on a lot of levels. Over the past several years, she’s done her best to build a Dutch erotic writing community. And now, as she outlines in Going Dutch, it’s time for her to do something a little different.

Let that be a life lesson to you as an online creator. Do what you love and believe in, but also be brave (and wise) enough to walk away when it no longer fits or fulfills you. Oh, and follow her so you can find out what new things she’s going to share from Dutch writers you’ve never heard of.

No Nut November is a massive pile of wank by Girl on the Net

In general, I think you should go ahead and follow Girl on the Net because she’s smart, funny, and brilliant. She puts words together in ways that make me feel like a cavewoman with a club instead of an intelligent woman with a keyboard. She also has this amazing way of cutting straight to a point while explaining so that you see her perspective clearly.

In her (well-reasoned and perfect) rant against No Nut November, she eviscerates the entire concept. Which is so much better than what I did when I heard about No Nut November. Instead of being horrified at how it demonizes masturbation (which is awful on so many levels), I shrugged and said, “Not for me it isn’t.” If you tell me I’m not allowed, I’m going to do it twice as much. That kind of reaction might be funny and snarky, but it’s not very helpful. In this piece, GOTN is not only amusing, she’s also helpful.

To me, these three women are sex blogging goddesses. I want to be like them when I grow up. That is enough reason for me to encourage you to follow them. But if you also want proof of what happens when you work your ass off as a smutlancer, go forth and read their work, specifically these posts.

Kayla Lords

Kayla Lords is a freelance sex writer, podcaster, blogger, all-around sex content creating human, and she really likes creating content. As a writer, she focuses on sex and kink primarily on BDSM and power exchange. She works with private clients to write their content and manage their social media, while also co-hosting two podcasts, running a YouTube channel, and managing multiple blogs. Let's just say, she stays busy and wants to keep it that way. Kayla is an international speaker and an award-winning sex blogger. She believes we are stronger together as a community than we are isolated and apart. We all deserve to get paid for the work we do, but until we understand our cumulative power, we'll all wonder if we're "the only one" doing this smutlancing thing.

4 Responses

  1. Molly says:

    Thank you for the mention. Also I completely agree with you about what you said to Rebel and being brave enough to make changes or do something different if and when things stop working for you. I think it is a lesson we could all do with taking on board more


    • Kayla Lords says:

      I agree…and I need to take my own advice which is how I know just how scary the decision can be. Rebel is braver than I am but maybe I can follow her lead on this one.

  2. Thank you for mentioning my ‘Going Dutch’ post, the one post I never thought would be chosen for any of the #SoSS posts! I can tell both you ladies that just days after I stopped with the Dutch writing group, I seem to have more space in my head to think. It’s the most amazing thing!

    Rebel xox

    • Kayla Lords says:

      You are so welcome! And as rare as it is for me to let something go, I’ve found it certainly frees the mind up to think of other things…which probably means you’re going to have all new ideas soon enough. 😉

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