Slow Progress Isn’t a Sign of Failure SL024

I admit to going on a tangent in this one, but the overall message is pretty clear (hopefully): Slow progress isn’t a sign of failure. No shame if you’re moving at the speed of a sloth, y’all.

In this episode:

  • This week’s episode is brought to you by QuickBooks Self Employed.
  • The overnight success probably worked for 10 years in obscurity before getting “found.”
  • Some people write thousands of words a day and some write dozens.
  • Believing you’re not doing enough can stop you in your tracks and make you think, “Why bother?’.
  • Mentally berating yourself for not writing or creating all the time often leads to feelings of guilt, then stress, and then procrastination.
  • Overcoming those feelings takes time and a lot of mental effort:
    • Forgive yourself for any perceived failings
    • Recognize that you don’t have to create the way others create
    • Commit to what you know you can do — 30 minutes a day, every other day, or once a week
    • Small victories can give you the momentum you need to do more.

Links from the show:

Mischa Eliot

The Compare and Contrast Thing We All Do (episode #5)

Mel Robbins on YouTube

QuickBooks Self Employed (affiliate link — get 50 percent off the price for a year)

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Kayla Lords

I am an erotic author, sex blogger, podcaster, freelance writer, an opinionated marketer, and a speaker with a focus on BDSM and D/s. Here at The Smutlancer, I help people who want to create content or products about sex get paid to do it. I'm sharing what I've learned as a freelancer and a sex blogger to build a career. You can find me online sharing my innermost sexual thoughts and experiences and helping kinksters have healthy BDSM relationships. I'm also a masochistic babygirl submissive with an amazing and sadistic Daddy Dom and business partner, John Brownstone.

2 Responses

  1. Dougie says:

    wow, that was the best 30 mins I spent in a long time so thank you for that.

    I mainly like how you spoke from experience. When talking about procrastination that you used real-life examples such as not having your phone on your desk. Also how procrastination was stress related which I can see.

    I have certainly learnt something, and I am completely the same. As I am new writing and coming up with titles for new posts is one thing but then writing them is a whole different level. Where I also find other things to do to stop myself from doing it.

    So I have now set time aside purposely to do all those things and then sit down and write (As you said that is what a first draft is for!) and then I can cross it off my life. Just a small win.

    Thank you again. Listening to your podcast and I will be listening to more I don’t think it will take you much longer to be “Discovered.”

    • Kayla Lords says:

      Thank you so much! I’m glad you enjoyed it and that you found it relatable. Those small wins add up and help create other small wins — I see that in my own work life now, too.

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