How Your Partner Feels About Your Smutlancer Life SL019

John Brownstone (my husband and Dominant partner) joins me for a discussion about how your partner might feel about and react to your smutlancer life. If what you’re creating or writing about includes them, what they think matters very much. But even when you leave them out of your content, a supportive partner can make all the difference in how you feel about your professional goals.

In this episode:

  • As a creator, you don’t necessarily need permission to write and create smutty things.
  • But when your partner is involved — talking about your sex life, taking pictures, etc — what they think about it matters.
  • Some partners don’t want to be mentioned at all. Others don’t mind with a few caveats.
  • And then there’s John Brownstone and others like him who don’t ask the writers and creators in their life to hold anything back.
  • If this is your “side hustle” and not your main source of income, they will have opinions about how this impacts your time and resources, too.
  • There is no single right answer for how to handle this.
  • You have to communicate with your partner and then figure out what you can both live with.

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Kayla Lords

Kayla Lords is a freelance sex writer, podcaster, blogger, all-around sex content creating human, and she really likes creating content. As a writer, she focuses on sex and kink primarily on BDSM and power exchange. She works with private clients to write their content and manage their social media, while also co-hosting two podcasts, running a YouTube channel, and managing multiple blogs. Let's just say, she stays busy and wants to keep it that way. Kayla is an international speaker and an award-winning sex blogger. She believes we are stronger together as a community than we are isolated and apart. We all deserve to get paid for the work we do, but until we understand our cumulative power, we'll all wonder if we're "the only one" doing this smutlancing thing.

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