The Case for Being More Generous With Your Audience SL014

When we share our personal sexual experiences, give advice on the best way to do this or the top number of [insert things to try here], our audience may consider us a resource for all kinds of information about sex. Some (but not all) of them may even seek our advice on more specific questions. As bloggers, educators, and content creators, we get to decide whether we’ll answer those questions and how we’ll handle those requests. In episode 14, I try to explain why I’m overly generous with my time, attention, and willingness to help those who ask for it. And not just because I want to help people, but also from a professional perspective.

In this episode:

  • The conversation about doing “free” labor to answer questions versus offering advice when asked
  • It’s okay to set your boundaries and to make those clear.
  • You can change your boundaries over time, based on what works for your life.
  • Why you’re getting questions from your audience.
  • Why I answer nearly 100% of the questions I get from listeners, readers, and followers.
  • Everything we do is emotional labor so it’s up to us to decide how much we can or want to do for someone else.
  • What to do if you’re getting the same types of questions over and over again — use it for content, create a FAQ, write a book.
  • How being generous with time and information has helped me professionally.

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Kayla Lords

Kayla Lords is a freelance sex writer, podcaster, blogger, all-around sex content creating human, and she really likes creating content. As a writer, she focuses on sex and kink primarily on BDSM and power exchange. She works with private clients to write their content and manage their social media, while also co-hosting two podcasts, running a YouTube channel, and managing multiple blogs. Let's just say, she stays busy and wants to keep it that way. Kayla is an international speaker and an award-winning sex blogger. She believes we are stronger together as a community than we are isolated and apart. We all deserve to get paid for the work we do, but until we understand our cumulative power, we'll all wonder if we're "the only one" doing this smutlancing thing.

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